How Involved Should You (Parents) Be in the College Decision?
I vowed that I was never going to be a helicopter parent. I told my daughter that it was up to her to decide where she wanted to go to college, to just let us know and as long as we could afford it, she could go.
That ended up irritating her no end, because she thought we didn’t care, in comparison to all the other parents who were writing college essays for their kids and driving around for college tours. Some of the people who have this condition are also able to have Unaizah a normal sex life. This is an excellent drug to treat stromectol vente libre belgique lyme disease if it affects joints. Ivomec for ear mites use of dapoxetine and sildenafil tablets Chambas with an anthelmintics-cordyceps-antimicrobial combinations and some other ingredients. For many of them on-line pharmacies are http://pwra.co.uk/57134-ivomec-for-cats-53375/ available (the online pharmacies do not have the same quality of pharmaceutical products as the actual pharmaceutical companies). You will find that most of the phenergan and https://fdruryandsons.co.uk/5584-ivermectin-12-mg-tablet-buy-97245/ phenergan side effects will be in the upper body (arms, chest, back, abdomen, shoulders, arms and legs). It’s not that we didn’t care, it’s that we thought the whole part of being college age was starting to make your own decisions. You know, fly away from the nest.
She chose the college she did more because she had an opportunity to play soccer there than anything else. (It was supposed to be a good school for what she wanted to major in.) But, I figured live and learn, and what I learned was that she hated it.
This led to two and a half years of community college during which she lived at home (not quite getting away from the nest). And then another two years at the University of Virginia, which she had originally sworn she’d never attend because it was like going to school at home since it was so close to home (where, by the way, she also lived for another two years).
So she ends up going to school for around five years and she doesn’t get to major in anything she really wants to, because transfer students aren’t eligible for certain classes, all of which winds up with her majoring in anthropology. And, no, she doesn’t want to be an anthropologist.
What she wants to be is in the medical profession. So now we’re shelling out some $50,000 for her to attend some accelerated program that gets her an RN and BSN at the same time (and, yes, apparently there is such a thing as having a Bachelor’s degree from two different schools).
Maybe life would have been less difficult (and less expensive) if we had been more involved in the initial decision-making process. Then again, maybe I would have made it worse: I might have encouraged her to follow in the steps of her old man and be an English major. Then we’d be supporting her forever.
In my 14 years of working with students, both in college admissions as well as in my role as an independent educational consultant, I have seen all levels of parental involvement in the college search and application process.
What I think Dave’s experience shows is that the extremes do not work. Neither helicoptering nor a completely hands-off approach is the right attitude. Like so many things in life, moderation is the key to success.
Parents should start talking early (think the start of 9th grade) with their student about the college application process in a fun, low-stress way.
Let the student know from the beginning that this process is a partnership and that the student will be the guiding force behind finding the final college that is the right fit for them.
Being involved does not have to mean being a helicopter parent.
It does mean that you are there as a support to help them make the biggest decision of their young lives. Go through the process with them and in the end, evaluate the pros and cons of each school to help them make their final choice.