An Open Letter To My Second College-Bound Child: Forget Prestige, Embrace Passion!

Two teen girls sitting by a tennis net holding tennis rackets

An Open Letter To My Second College-Bound Child: Forget Prestige, Embrace Passion!

Published November 30, 2023

Two teen girls sitting by a tennis net holding tennis rackets

There is a lot you learn on the college journey, and if you have multiple children, that experience proves quite valuable when you go through it the second time or even third around.

Recently, a parent in our Paying for College 101 Facebook Group shared an open letter to her next child after going through her first born’s college journey, and hundreds of parents weighed in with comments, requests to share the letter, and more. Even college advisors such as Lisa G. chimed in and said, “this is the best advice! Live in the now, enjoy, and be authentic, then apply to colleges where you will be celebrated for that!”

Following is parent Dana G. ‘s open letter to her second-born, college-bound son that garnered so much attention in our Paying for College 101 Facebook Group.

An Open Letter To My Next Child After Going Through My First Born’s College Process and Experiencing This Season’s Decisions

Have a blast in high school! Take challenging classes. Enjoy your friends. Do what brings you joy! Explore new hobbies. Focus on classes where you lose track of time and get good grades because you love the topics.

My advice after spending all this time with your older brother who has “all the stats”,…stop catering to the demands of higher institutions. 

Do not spend a large amount of time prepping a resume for a set of selective schools that may or may not let you in with a single digit acceptance rate, despite the large amount of marketing materials they may send you.

Don’t waste your HS years in boring APs because that’s what it takes to apply to these schools. Take those electives and fun classes. Be okay with an occasional B+ because you rocked at something else that you are made to do!

High school equals four amazing years of your youth. Don’t let the allure of selective colleges rob you of the joy in HS.

You will get into a good college and move onto a great life! You are smart; worthy, capable and will kick ass in life, no matter the rank of the college you attend

Love,

Mom and your future employer

_______

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