How To Pay For College – Learn From Other Parents’ Mistakes

No Text Copy of Paying For College - Learn from Other parentsThis time of year can be both exciting and scary for parents of high school seniors. The college admissions process (and the high school years leading up to it) are arduous and stressful, so most parents feel a sense of relief when their child makes the final decision about where to attend college. Unfortunately, for many parents, that relief is short lived as their worries turn to figuring out how to pay for tuition.

I feel particularly sad when I get phone calls and messages from friends and readers asking for advice on different options for loans and where to find the best rates. In many of these conversations, my friends will admit they should have started earlier understanding how to pay for college and they should have done more research.

Wait!! – haven’t you been reading anything I write or post about??

It’s very frustrating for me knowing I could have helped these friends and readers more, but I couldn’t get their attention at the right time. I know, people want to avoid dealing with topics that are difficult and unpleasant, but that doesn’t prevent the inevitable – that your child is going to college and you’ll have to pay for it, somehow.

I recently posted an article on a chart that gives parents a quick look at what their EFC might be based on their adjusted gross income. The flood of comments should be a warning to parents of 9th, 10th, & 11th graders – don’t delay in understanding the financial aid process, figuring out your EFC, and how to do research to find affordable colleges BEFORE your child applies.


[Thinking About How To Pay For College? You Must See This Chart!]


If you’re a parent of an 8th – 11th grader, read these comments and take action….

“You basically have to go into it expecting nothing from FAFSA. Make a list of schools you can afford so there are no surprises. Look for schools who give good merit awards. Some will even post it on their pages.”


“My daughter got into a school she wanted. Our responsibility was nearly 170,000 for 4 years. This. After she received good grants and aid. Oh ya we have 3 kids. Unless you have the cash sitting there it’s just no longer possible…. I’ve been sad for days….”


“It’s so sad when you see First Time In College FTIAC* Parents…first generation students…the shock on their faces when you explain the student loan cap to them… Then the Parent Plus Loan…it is just awful!!!???”  *FTIAC – First Time In Any College


“We have done some research and have learned that if my daughter becomes a teen mom or goes to prison, college will be virtually free. Hmmmmmm.”


“As usual the middle class gets screwed without a decent lubricant.”


“I just burst into tears. We will have 2 in college in two years. We’ll be living in a van down by the river for sure!”


“My daughter got accepted to the #1 college of her choice… But can she attend? Ummm … No… It’s 67K per year and we really don’t have that kind of cash lying around. Sad part is FAFSA thinks we can!! It just doesn’t pay to be hard working middle class folk trying to make an honest living!
Forgot to add — this school does not offer ANY merit based scholarships so basically if you don’t qualify for financial assistance you get zilch!!”


“This is all so sad and disheartening. I am sick of high school always promoting ” getting in”, but not having the conversation about “how to pay for it”… And not everyone is a valedictorian.”


“The EFC provided by FAFSA is not a reality, it’s a joke! Each college my daughter applied to, our true out of pocket expenses were nearly 3xs our EFC.”


“I did everything wrong when it came to playing the financial game for college with my high school senior!!!! If we could come up with our expected contribution we would need to live in a shoebox and we didn’t get a PENNY of $.”


10 Tips For Helping Parents Pay For College

I wish I could say that if you listened to me and read everything I suggested you would never have a problem paying for college – then I’d be a national hero! I can’t solve all the problems in the comments above, but there’s a good likelihood you could avoid some of these issues by starting early to become an educated consumer of higher ed.

Here’s some quick and dirty advice, that if some of the parents above had followed maybe they wouldn’t have ended up in the situations they did….

1) As soon as possible, find out your EFC (Expected Family Contribution), as shocking as it may be.

2) At the start of high school, explain to your child that doing well academically in high school will help in many ways. Grades in each year of high school contribute equally towards creating their GPA. So, getting higher grades in 11th grade doesn’t override not such good grades in 9th. Best to give it their all from the beginning.

3) Although more colleges are going test-optional, a lot of schools (even test optional ones) still give merit scholarships based on test scores. So doing well on the PSAT, SAT, and ACT isn’t just for increasing their chances of admissions, it’s also for trying to get more merit money to put towards tuition.  

4) Learn everything you can about financial aid – how the EFC is calculated, what year will be your FAFSA base year, possible strategies for shifting income, when to maximize retirement contributions and when not to, how much to put in a 529 plan in your name vs. a grandparent’s name, and more.

5) Research, research, research and target colleges that are more generous with need and merit aid BEFORE your student applies. There’s lots of data to help with this: % of financial need met, % of students receiving financial need, % of students without need receiving grants, avg grant size, and more.

[Using Data To Find Merit Scholarships]

[Colleges Generous With Institutional Aid]

6) Have a serious conversation about money and how much you can afford to pay towards college BEFORE your student starts the college search process.

7) Use each school’s net price calculator to see what your family’s net price will be for all the schools your student is interested in.

8) Make sure your student applies to several “financial safety” schools, where you know you can afford the tuition based on the school’s net price calculator.

9) Stick to the idea that the only loans your student will take out are the Direct student loans from the government, which total $31,000 after four years of school. This should limit their debt to a manageable amount after they graduate.

10) As much as you’d like to be able to pay for more, DON’T co-sign on a student loan, DON’T take out a Parent Plus loan, DON’T take out a home equity loan, and DON’T touch your retirement savings.


More related articles:

Parent Advice On Starting The College Search

5 Myths About How To Pay For College


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