Ugh! It should have been fun—all the possibilities!
But my son had very little enthusiasm for the process and I had very little patience.
Thankfully we don’t have to do it again.
But, if I did, I would have done it a little differently.
I still wouldn’t have let him shop alone, though.
Dorm Necessities…as Per My Son
If I let my son pick out what he “needed” for his dorm room the list would have looked like this:
4. Mini fridge
He would never have thought about buying sheets (“I’ll just take the ones off my bed at home!”) or a shower caddy (“What’s a shower caddy??”).
Of course, not all kids would be as clueless…but it helps to have a parent tag along and it helps to have a plan.
I’m here to help with that plan.
I polled my older son’s friends, their parents, and my friends to find out what worthless items they purchased for dorm rooms—items that seemed essential or items that were on a list somewhere as a “Must Have” but were never—and have never—been used by an actual student.
Here’s that list. (You can thank me later.)
Things You Should NOT Bring to College
These are things I suggest you leave home on Move-In Day
• Too much clothing – specifically, according to one mom, “The twenty button-down shirts that my son HAD to have but never wore.”
Two words: no space.
• Too much formal clothing – If you are in a fraternity or sorority or you have a major where you need to make formal presentations, you may need a suit jacket or a couple of dresses.
You won’t need multiple suits, several dress shirts or five dresses and four pairs of formal shoes.
See above: no space.
• Too many shoes – Again: no space.
• Real plates, knives, forks – use disposable.
I know, I know, you are worried about your carbon footprint but, according to the kids, “you will never, ever clean the dirty plate/fork/knife,” and well, that’s just gross.
• Printer – “They take up a lot of space and there is a print room in every building.”
• Plastic cleaning gloves – Ok, I admit it. I packed these, and, not surprisingly, they returned home, unopened at the end of the year.
• Vacuum Cleaner– If you don’t already have one, don’t buy one.
Someone down the hall will have one that your kid can borrow for the two times he actually vacuums.
• Laundry basket and a laundry bag – No room for both. Bring a collapsible laundry bag.
• A lot of hangers – “Extra shelves—maybe—would have collected more clothes,” according to one mom.
• Bulky luggage – Pack clothes in collapsible bags or use heavy-duty garbage bags for transport.
These bags from IKEA have become the most popular things on kids’ lists.
They can carry a ton, and they can be “smushed” under the bed when not in use.
• A Panini press or any other kitchen appliance – save it for an apartment
• An iron– this one depends on your kid. One boy swore by it.
“College dryers tend to make clothes incredibly wrinkly,” he explained.
While another girl said that she never took hers out of the closet.
A drying rack can sometimes come in handy for wet workout wear or damp towels.
But then again, no one on my list had that on their own list.
Of course, this list is subjective.
Dorm Room Items: Girls vs. Boys
Kids are kids and no two are the same.
Girls definitely require somewhat of a different list than most boys, so parents can plan accordingly.
However, many of the items that parents think will make their kid feel like they’re at home, won’t.
And, what’s worse, all those little knickknacks and “extras, even the ones girls feel they “must” have, ” will find themselves back in your house–most likely your living room, when you kid returns for summer break.
A better idea is to buy the “absolute” necessities, and then wait until your child settles in.
We do have a list of the “essentials,” and we highly recommend you not stray too far from this list.
Once the kids get the lay of the land, they may decide they want certain things and can live without others.
If you don’t follow that Golden Rule, you will be spending your hard-earned money…I mean, WASTING your heard-earned money on “stuff.”
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