Dear Roadie,
Given the political climate, I’m concerned that my daughter wants to attend college in a ruby-red state. It’s a good school that seems like a good match for her, but I’m concerned she won’t have a diverse group of friends there like she has in high school. Should I be worried?
— Deciding Between Red and Blue
Dear Deciding Between Red and Blue,
It’s natural to feel concerned about where your daughter plans to spend the next few years, especially with today’s heightened political divides. But I’d hate to think that families across the nation feel they can’t attend a school where the political climate differs from theirs. I know that the way we vote represents our values, and many of us hold those values dear, but higher education is its own entity, and it’s not as simple as red or blue.
Start by having an honest conversation with her about why she’s drawn to schools in that area. Is it the academic program, the campus culture, the weather, or maybe the independence of going somewhere different? Try to get a sense of what appeals to her, and discuss how she feels about the local political climate. Many students find that college is a time to grow and engage with diverse perspectives, so they may welcome the opportunity to experience a new environment, even if it’s politically different.
It’s also important to keep in mind that college campuses often operate somewhat independently from the surrounding area’s politics, and many have strong support networks for students of all backgrounds. My son attends a school in a red-hot state in the deep South, for example, yet almost 60% of the students come from out of state and even other countries. There are hundreds of clubs and organizations on his campus for students from every walk of life. Suggest researching what’s available in terms of diversity groups, student organizations, and mental health resources. Knowing there are communities and resources on campus can provide a sense of safety and belonging even if the surrounding area feels different.
It’s also important to remind yourself that a college in a “red state” doesn’t mean the college itself reflects the state’s politics—it may still be a leading institution in her field of interest or offer unique career opportunities. Some colleges also have strong reputations with employers nationwide, which could benefit her long-term. Considering the academic and career fit, as well as how attending that school aligns with her goals, may give you both some perspective.
While she’s at it, she may also want to look into the local laws and cultural expectations. If there are issues that concern her, talk about those directly. Remember this is her college journey. We’re simply along for the ride to guide and support. Helping her understand what to expect can help her make an informed choice and know what she’ll need to feel comfortable.
While your concerns are valid, showing her that you trust her judgment and independence will help her feel empowered to make decisions with confidence. Remember, it’s ultimately about her growth and comfort. By supporting her research and decision-making process, you’re helping her feel prepared and confident about wherever she chooses to go.
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